Church Trouble

One of my uncles wants to know why lakhs of rupees are not accounted for in the books of accounts of the church.
According to his calculations, there're at least eight lakhs missing from the church account. And he thinks that the following people have either stolen the money or have not taken their responsibilities seriously. The committee members, the pastor assigned to the church, the district superintendent and the bishop.

I'm not that close to this uncle or the church to talk to him about it. But I still can't help wondering why he would create such a big scene about it. Thinking logically, (and I know I dunno every single thing about every single thing in this world), based on the knowledge I have, I come to the following conclusions. . Why would I care about the money I have willingly donated, given away, about what it's used for or whether they deserve it or not? . If by chance, I come to know about all that, why should I fight for the money I've already given away? The wise thing to do at that point would be to stop donating anymore money to that person or organization. . If you still can't ignore the issue because you realise it's your own church and a few people are taking advantage of the many innocent, ignorant and stupid people, you have to realise the following things too. .. The church was set up by an organisation that has provided a pastor to handle it too. If there is any problem in the church, the pastor should take care of it. .. The money you donated to the organisation belongs to the organisation now. You have no right over it and so no right to question where it is being used or misused. .. Are you a real Christian? Do you truly believe in miracles? Do you really believe god exists? Do you believe god has the power to punish them who sin? By taking unnecessary matters, which you have no authority over, aren't you proving that god can't do anything so now you have to do it? If so, why do you go to church and praise the "Almighty" in the first place? There're so many things that you can think of to know that what my uncle's doing has no strong base. But what can one do. I can just wait and watch him learn the lesson the hard way.

Mob

It started off as a normal Wednesday, with a visit to Mahim church. Dad and bro went in to pray, and I, as usual, sat in my car engrossed in deep thought on matters of national importance. That is when I was jolted out of my reverie by a crash-bang. An idiot (and please remember, when I say an idiot, I actually mean an asshole) with no knowledge about how to get behind the wheel of an I20, had come up behind my car and banged it. I was uncharacteristically cool. I repeat I was cool, cos I quickly noticed that no noticeable damage had been done, and asked him to reverse his car a bit.
Now, a normal person would have duly apologised and complied. But not Mr Idiot. The man had the audacity to demand that I move my car, as he wanted to park his!
I told him to Fuck off. Politely, of course. Also pointed out that I would appreciate an apology for his mistake and also a bit of gratitude for my letting him go.
Upon which he came up close to me and said, “Kya karega?”
Now ”Kya Karega” is a dangerous thing to say to me. So I took off my floaters, in deference to the deed I was about to commit outside the church, kept them aside and beat him up. His shirt got torn in the skirmish. I didn’t do it on purpose, I swear, it was a bonus. My aim was to only beat him up.
By then a huge crowd had gathered and several hands held me back. I didn’t fight the crowd but he did.
The crowd stopped him and asked him to move his car. Dad and Raju, my younger bro arrived, and looked suitably menacingly at him. Inspired, the crowd too looked menacingly. And several raised voices demanded that he move the car and look snappy about it. He drove off and so did we.
Who says mob violence is a bad thing? :-)

Cribbing is good.

I wonder why some people make it their business to make others miserable. Sadists!

Sometimes, they don't know they're doing it.
It's human nature to be satisfied, if not happy, about your own life when you see someone else suffering more than you.
I remember once I told someone that my life sucks..
She: Why? You lost your limbs?
Me: No.
She: Then?
You're mentally unstable?
You don't have a place to stay?
Don't have clothes to wear?
Don't have food to eat?
Don't have friends to share?
What is it that you lack?
You should be happy that you have good health, financial, social security.
Don't crib!
Me: YessssssSir!

So I'm supposed to be happy by comparing myself with less satisfied people or those who are suffering more than me. I think the whole world follows this logic.
'Be happy because someone else is suffering more than you.'
This logic explains a lot of things that go on in our lives.
Your boss is making life hell at work, maybe he wants to see you suffer more. Hlife sucks bigtime, you see.
And how do you escape this hell?
Simple. Crib!
Pretend that your life sucks even when it doesn't. Show that your life's miserable.
"My parents got separated,"
"I'm staying alone in the city."
"I have had an accident,"
"I got dumped. Again."
You can add to this list because at some time, you have definately come across such cribbers who escape work, punishment, hell and you keep wondering "why is it that it's always I who get caught, why the f do i have to do the night shift on new year's eve or work on weekends.
Just because I'm happy and don't crib?"
EXACTLY!
You're happy. And your boss hates someone happier than him. So he wants you to suffer so much that he starts feeling better about his own shitty life.
So. Escape. Crib. A lot.

And sometimes they know they're doing it. I don't have antidote to offer for such people's venom.
It can't be helped. They'll punish you even if you're a lame, dumb, bald, beggar with leprosy and malaria!

Legalizing Homosexuality in India

These are some reactions I read in the paper today, July 3, 2009, about the
debate over legalizing gay relationships...
And I've something to say to these wise old men.

"The judgement is unfortunate.. this is a Congress conspiracy.. it seems
some top Congress leaders are gay."
- This is hilarious. Childish. Some people bring politics into everything.
Such politicians should first grow up before thinking of representing a
group. But then again, like we say, andhon mein kaana raja, I'm sure he
leads idiots like himself.

"Legalizing homosexuality would lead to an increase in sex-related crimes,
especially sodomy, where children would be victims."
- This person thinks that the rapists think about the law before committing
a sex-related crime. And if homosexuality wasn't legal, he wouldn't rape a
male and instead rape a female. What an Idiot! If a person commits a crime,
he or she doesn't care what is legal and what is illegal. This guy wasn't
born with a brain, I think.

"The Centre is giving undue attention to this non-issue.. there are so many
other important things which deserve the government's attention."
- Of course, there are so many issues for the government to solve. And it
needs to take up an issue, any issue, to solve it. It so happens that this
issue has come up, and about time too. And this is NOT a non-issue! It
involves people, citizens of this country. They are in
pain and need relief. I think this guy should open his eyes and see that
he's in a democratic country where every person has equal rights.

"On one hand, we're spending crores on AIDS prevention ads and on the other,
we legalize gay sex."
- Good. It's good to know we're spreading awareness about HIV/AIDS
prevention but it's a total waste because this guy seems to have missed the
information the ads wanted to convey altogether. A sexually transmitted
disease spreads because of unsafe sex. It can be sex between two men or sex
between a man and a woman. I'd say we're not doing a good job with AIDS
awareness.

"A joint forum of Hindus, Muslims and Christians should be set up to check
legalisation of homosexuality."
- This makes it sound like homosexuality is a separate religion. And the
dominating, or at least more popular religions don't want it to emerge.
Maybe if a different kind of place of worship comes up, their share of
donations may go down. BS! What is wrong with these people? I always thought
religion taught us to love others. What you follow is a matter of personal
choice. And people who really believe in God, should understand that
homosexuals are humans created by God in his own image, just like them. How
can God who has created you and him be biased! God cannot be biased. Then
who are you to question His decision? Are you saying you're greater than
God?
Therefore, I conclude that this so-called religious person is a hypocrite, a
*dhongibaba* type person. He doesn't actually understand God at all. I don't
think he should be allowed to represent any religion.

"Islam allowed physical relationship between man and woman only. Rest of the
unnatural bonds are strictly prohibited."
- I cannot say anything about this because I dunno what Islam is. Some
people follow scriptures written aeons ago literally, without knowing or
trying to understand the actual message it conveys.
I know that if one agrees to the way of life laid down by Islam, he should
follow it. It will be for his salvation and his salvation only.
His following his religion will not save anyone else, not even his spouse.
And in the same way, someone else's *not* following his religion, will not
kill this person. He will only reap what he sows. He will not be punished by
God for someone else's actions. I don't think he has the right to decide
someone else's sexual preference. He should just shut up!

"The verdict will encourage criminality and sick mentality. This kind of
thing is shameful and insulting. We are blindly following the West in
everything. This is breaking the family system in India. Homosexuals are
sick people, they should be sent to hospitals for treatment. If the
government brings this law, I will take to the streets in protest."
- I don't see how accepting homosexuality will encourage crime. A
hetrosexual can commit a crime too. And by giving birth to even hetrosexuals
you are contributing to the crime. Criminals can be homosexuals are well as
hetrosexuals. I don't see a connection here. And I don't think it's shameful
or insulting. Did someone abuse you? In fact, you're the one abusing the
homosexuals, and now, they have a chance to fight back. By making
homosexuality legal, your abusing them will become illegal. And so their win
will be your loss.
You rightly deserve it. We are definately not following the West in this
case. From what I've heard about indian history, being gay was normal, even
Hindu Gods thought so, and West has given us Christianity, who are also
supporting you against homosexuality. A bigger religion, of which every
person of every big religion is a part, is humanity, being human. Humans
have evolved through the time. And we've lived here for so many milleniums.
You think homosexuality is a new trend?
If you say yes, you're as ass! You need to grow more to understand. I bet
that even the second generation of humans might've experimented with this.
Some people like it, some people don't. You cannot force a person to like
what he finds disgusting. BY MAKING HOMOSEXUALITY LEGAL, THEY ARE NOT ASKING
YOU TO BE A HOMOSEXUAL!! They just want to be left alone with their choice
of lifestyle, that doesn't harm another unwilling person. And if a
homosexual forces someone, he's a criminal. Just like a hetrosexual man who
forces a woman, is called a rapist.
Homosexuality is not rape. If the government brings in a law that doesn't
affect you, a heterosexual, at all, and you decide to go on the streets and
cause annoyance and vandalize public property, I think you are the SICK one
and you desperately need to see a doc.

"Home ministry wanted section 377 retained as it is invoked in allegations
of child sex abuse or for contemplating lacunae in rape laws, not just
homosexuality. The ministry said the provision is necessary or it would open
the floodgates of delinquent behaviour."
- Whoever gave this statement is not talking from the law's point of view.
It's his personal view. In a rape there's a victim and an accused. But when
it comes to homosexuality, both the accused and the 'victim' were punished
for something that they did with each others' consent.
If homosexual behaviour among adults with consent is legalised. It does not
mean anyone can be forced to do it. As soon as force comes into play, it's
no longer sex, it's rape. And we have a Section for that.

Is all this so difficult to understand??????? Or am I way ahead of times!

Anger

Do you ever feel the irrepressible urge to smash someone's head, or simply to scream your lungs out? I do. And I know it's anger, the real root of all evil.
Why does one become angry? Maybe because the world turns out to be different from what one expects it to be. The expectations mismatch the reality. Sometimes, this mismatch brings joy, satisfaction, peace of mind like when you get second class in an exam you've barely written to achieve even passing marks and at others, it brings sadness, dissatisfaction, anger like when someone breaks the signal and bangs into your car while you were following all the traffic rules sincerely.
What should one do when one becomes angry?
Control it? I don't think so, you cannot always control your anger and controlling it will only make it get stored in you, which will explode later when you least expect it, making you angry even on that behaviour of yours.
Divert attention? You cannot always divert your attention either. Sometimes the offender persists so much to invoke anger in you that it simply cannot be ignored, and at other times, if you're successful in diverting your attention, it'll again store that anger somewhere deep inside to explode later.
I think one should not pretend to be something or someone he or she is not. If you're angry, be angry. If you don't want to be angry, then accept the reality, make changes to your expectations so that they match the reality because you can't change reality but expectations, you can.
This acceptence of reality is probably what they call, meditation.
Beware of one thing, though. When you start accepting the reality as it is, when your expectations die because they're not different from the reality anymore, when you don't dream of a better world, I think your life will become boring, you wont be fun to hang out with. You wont be amused at surprises, you wont react to sudden happiness or sadness. Your character will become colorless.
You'll be like a stone, which doesn't react to happiness or sadness. It remains.
So, I think one should live life as it comes. Expect everything to turn out good. I think our minds are very powerful, what you expect is what mostly happens in reality too.